There's no reason to merge the servers. On any given day, there is at the most 10 people on them, so they aren't affecting the core servers playerbase much. I see them as storage accounts, so I don't see the benefit in merging them.
I would love to see a giant map on PvE. Seeing locations more accurately placed would be awesome. I'm thinking like a 20,000 to 30,000 block map, which is probably way bigger then it should be, but I wouldn't mind just seeing trees for miles, and then stumbling upon a shack after like 10 minutes of running. I'm sure it would be very niche, but maybe it would be interesting to see it on a test server of some sorts to see what people think. As for PvP, I think the current map is fine. I think there's to many safezones. I wouldn't mind seeing Brooks, or the School, or Mallowbridge getting removed or moved to another area. That's the only problem I have with the map. As long as you have a car, which are common, you should be good.
For the PvP change, I like your suggestions, and a shotgun buff would be great. I doubt they will change it, but you never know.
For the loot change, hard disagree. Loot is fine as it is. If anything, a Jugg nerf would make more sense.
A mass unban would not be good, the server will be fine without them. As for the Beasty and Kendra thing, that would be pretty ****ing ****ty of them to to do but I don't see any proof for it being true or that you kept your end of the bargain.
As for the map reset, there would be no reason to only reset one. The duped items could always just be transferred. Either reset both or reset none, and there isn't enough reason to warrant a reset at this point.
I also disagree that the server is dying. It's getting consistent numbers, not as much as it could be getting but it isn't dying. If anything, its going up, slowly. If you said this a year ago, I would agree, but it has gotten out of that pit it was trapped in. I agree that the owners are doing a mediocre job, and that the server is a bit understaffed, but it isn't that bad.